It only takes 7 seconds to make a first impression and it’s not so hard to make someone dislike you. Whether you’re interacting online or in real life, If you share something overly personal too soon or hide your emotions, for example, you may unwittingly repel people. There are some scientific findings on the traits and behaviours that make people dislike you, both online and in person. Here are some things you do that make people dislike you immediately.
Sharing too many photos on Facebook
If you’re the kind of person who shares snapshots of what you had for breakfast, your child’s school play, and dog dressed in a Halloween costume all in the same day, you might want to stop. According to studies, posting too many photos on Facebook can hurt your real-life relationships.
Other than close friends and family don’t relate well to those constantly sharing photos of themselves. What makes it even more tricky is that friends don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of family, and relatives don’t like it when you’ve got too many photos of friends.
Consider how others will perceive the things you share on social media. Sharing is definitely a great way to enhance relationships but sometimes it can damage them.
Getting too personal early on in a relationship
Generally speaking, people like each other more after they’ve traded confidences. As an adult, self-disclosure is one of the best ways to make friends.
If you disclose something too intimate while you’re still getting to know someone can make you seem insecure and decrease your likability. Sharing just the right amount of personal is the key. Even just sharing details about favourite memories and hobbies will make you seem warmer and more likable.
Asking someone questions without talking about yourself at all
Self-disclosure predicts closeness. And this has to be mutual. If you don’t reciprocate when someone discloses something intimate people will generally like you less. Many shy and anxious people may ask questions to divert attention from themselves from themselves however it’s not a good strategy to build relationships. To generate mutual closeness and liking, both participants in an interaction need to disclose personal information.
Posting close-up profile photos
You should consider changing your LinkedIn profile photo if your face is practically smushed up against the camera. Research suggests that photos less than 45 cm away are considered less trustworthy and attractive. So, get out your selfie stick and make sure you’re at least 135 cm away.
Hiding your emotions
Showing your real feelings is a better strategy for getting people to like you than bottling it all up.
People who suppress their feelings are viewed less likable, less extroverted and agreeable – than people who are unafraid to be natural. Hiding ones emotions can be interpreted as disinterest, which most people don’t like.
Acting too nice
Being nice is good but being too nice can be seen as negative. Generally, people who are ‘too nice’ are perceived as dishonest.
Getting too nervous
Thank goodness for deodorant! Never let ’em see – or smell – you sweat. According to researchers, the odour of your nervous sweat may subconsciously influence people’s judgments.
Human sweat has different odour depending on why we perspire. A study was done at the Monell Chemical Senses Center which showed videos of women in everyday situations, like working in an office and taking care of a child. Participants were given 3 kinds of sweat to smell during the exercise (one that someone produced while in a stressful situation but covered with deodorant, one during a stressful situation, and one while exercising). The women in the video were rated less competent, trustworthy and confident when the sweat resulting from stress was smelled.
When you’re at a networking try keeping a smile plastered on your face. It works. Smiling will help people remember you later. People who smile more, regardless of body positioning or gestures, are generally liked more.=
Name-dropping can backfire so think twice before mentioning that famous author who graduated from your alma mater.
According to a study at the University of Zurich, name-dropping makes people seem both less likable and less competent.
When you first meet someone and extend your hand, make sure it’s done with a firm shake. People with a firm handshake seem more positive, more outgoing, more hireable and less socially anxious.